I have purposely avoided sticking my neck out and talking about stuff in details to avoid being crucified, but here goes. I suppose this may be my last post before my third lifetime ban …
We might talk about topics that arent that sensitive but then we might get onto topics that are too sensitive. Stuff like sins committed by someone or abuse that may have occurred. In those cases Id vote anonymity to protect those who post. It all depends.
I think we’re overthinking this. MG is, in Abrar’s words, just a place for Muslim gamers to hang out and chillax. It’s not a place to get fatwas. It’s not a place to post about spousal/family abuse, alcohol abuse, etc. and ask for help. I think people know that. So why are we worrying about this?
If someone posts something asking for help, that’s different from incidentally mentioning that something happened and that’s why they missed their round in the checkers tournament or whatever. Maybe the best solution is to just say, sorry, this is not the right place for that. At best, you’ll get advice from someone who was in the same situation as you.
Sins is another complex and prickly issue. Let’s say we go with an example that already came up: music (see: Bastion thread).
I could say something like “most scholars say music is haram,” but then @Wulf and the Haram Police will come thundering in asking for proof. I could provide proof, actually good proof, but maybe other people won’t understand it or couldn’t do it if they were asked. Someone else could bring one or more pieces of counter-proof, and it could degenerate into a proof-war. And those of us implicated now get painted with the brush of “hey you’re preaching,” even if that wasn’t the intent to begin with.
I’ve seen this happen to the Islam Stack Exchange site (I was a mod there for a while). Sometimes, the popular opinion wins (here comes the ban hammer on my way out). Sometimes, the strongest opinion wins. Most of the time, people actually don’t care and all these rules and discussions just leave a bad taste in our collective mouths.
In Conclusion (TLDR)
I don’t have the solution. I’ve seen lots of things tried and failed (and also succeeded to various degrees). I think we’re over-thinking and over-complicating this.
If we can’t be civil, and if we can’t respect each other’s beliefs/opinions/views/etc., no amount of anonymity or plugins or rules or processes will fix what’s essentially a human problem.